Commitment is Challenging. Hard. Limiting. An obligation.
Just seeing the word often leads me to experience contraction in my body, anxiety, and a feeling that I am limiting my life in some way.
-How can someone like me, a free spirit, who values being in flow, make commitments in advance??
-What if I don't feel upto what I agreed to when the time comes?
-What if something else comes up that feels more in alignment?
-What if I am tired?
-What if I want to fly away on a spontaneous adventure?
-Commitments get in the way of my free spirit nature and having fun!
These beliefs around commitment, have led me to:
-& not follow through or complete projects and ideas.
Which leaves me:
- judging myself
- feeling like a failure
-feeling like I have wasted time
And leaves others:
-distant, frustrated & disrespected.
Can anyone relate!?
I am currently working on changing my relationship to commitment, considering that
Commitment actually is:
Possibility. Integrity. Power. Self love. Trust building. Devotion. Creation. Connection. Contribution.
Ever since this paradigm shift I have seen an exponential shift in my relationships, productivity, sense of power, confidence, sense of self, and contribution to the world.
What I really got, was when we do what we say we will, consistently, we are gaining trust not just from those around us, but from OURSELVES.
It's often said that trust is the foundation of all relationships. And the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
How do we build trust with ourselves? By doing what we say we will do, no matter how small the task. (It's worth noting that its important to actually acknowledge yourself for all the things you did that you said you would, no matter how small)
ie. "I said I was going to turn my phone off 15 minutes before bed and I did"; "I said I was going to call my mom today and I did"; "I said I was going to show up at 12pm for a meeting, and I did", etc.
When we begin to do what we say, we begin to realize (because of the evidence from being in ACTION) that we are capable and reliable. That we actually have much more potential than our inner critic has led us to believe.
Then we feel damn proud and good about ourselves:
"I did what I said I was going to do" and vibrate -"Success!"
When action is in consistently in alignment with our word, we feel good and vibrate success, no matter how small.
And what's one of the main elements of manifestation? To embody and vibrate 'as if'...So sticking to commitments gives us the opportunity to vibrate "success" , and attract more of it into our lives.
I am actually finding when I stick to commitments, even the ones I don't "feel" like doing, I feel more powerful and impactful in tasks that I do feel like doing. And when I don't, it takes power and level of impact away from other areas in my life.
Three things that have helped me stay in action with commitment, especially commitments I don't 'feel' like doing, are:
1) to switch language from "I HAVE to do this" to "I GET to do this". Try it on. I find it to feel SO much better.
... Theres an element of gratitude and of realizing how blessed we are to even have an opportunity to have the commitment in the first place.
2)To have a WHY/ an intention/a greater something you are committed to, (ie. authentic self expression, community, self growth, connection, integrity, world peace), which is the WHY for you committing to some things you may not "feel" like doing.
3) Having accountability.
Any other helpful insights or tips around commitment that you can share?
I am committing to writing at least one "On" post a week;) and my WHY is my greater intention of community connection and self expression.
...What are you committed to in your life? What's your why? Share and stay accountable:)