My personal association with wildness for a long time, was being "out of control", or acting "crazy" as in "she is acting wild". It was something to be tamed, refined, and controlled.
For many, especially women, our wildness is seen as something to hone and keep under control. The natural growth of hair, to be shaved, our emotions, to be kept under control, and our sensuality to be unexpressed.
It was awe awakening for me to come to realize that wild simply meant natural. And following our instincts.
In the book, Women who run with the wolves, Jungian analyst and author, Clarissa Pinkola Estés, shares many stories that illustrate how this inherent wildness, especially for women, has been suppressed, untolerated, subdued, and even punished in our culture, and the impact that this has had.
I learned from the book, that the natural behavior of wolves, is to only kill the amount which they will eat. There is only one time when they engage in "surplus" killing, meaning killing more than they can eat, and that is after a famine, for example, after the winter months. With their wildness supressed, they then compensate with exxagerated behavior.
This unfortunately is what happens to us as well. We mute our wildness, shame our sensuality, eliminate time for creativity, limit our full self expression and quiet our voice. We minimize our feelings, dial down our dance moves, still our hips, and lose touch with our instincts.
What then? We yearn to feel our wildness, and rely on drugs and alcohol to do so. Or we engage in dangerous and promiscuous behavior to FEEL SOMETHING. Or we give ourselves away to those who don't deserve because we are in FAMINE for self expression. Or we fall into depression and anxiety due to suppressing or feeling shame about who we know ourselves to truly be, but not have space to express.
Our birthright is wild. And its imperative we find ways to release the shame associated with being free and authentically human.
It is crucial to find safe places to explore, express, and excite our senses once again. Give yourself PERMISSION to just BE, be the natural, wild, wise, free, woman you were born to be. To release any shame, doubt, masks, religious dogmatic brainwashing, and feelings of wrongness in being who you are. Do you have a place like this? a community like this? A place where you can take up SPACE with confidence? to cry? release? get naked? get costumed up? sing or roar loudly?Personally, I find embodied practices to be the most impactful in feeling fully liberated.
I am SO grateful to know of many spaces to explore and express my inner wild, but I realize not everyone does! If you are a woman reading this, and have never experienced this or feeling uncomfortable by this post, know you are reading this for a reason. IT IS TIME for all women to be freed. The universe is supporting us to unleash our wildness, and OWN OUR POWER. The whole world is yearning for it.
This month is JAM PACKED with opportunities to liberate your wildness. Here are my top 3 choices!:
1)One of my favorite immersive events, WILD VESSEL, is coming up on Saturday, February 17th from 6pm-Late. It's dedicated to just that: For us to Re-WILD our senses. Held in a private luxury location in Los Angeles, consisting of 200 women and 50 men, Wild vessel is designed for men and women to empower the feminine rising. Explore all sides of yourself through workshops, services and break-out groups that are woven into one unforgettable evening. Note this is an event to feel liberated, dance, connect, explore and express, it is sexy but NOT sexual. And it's time we learn the difference. Intrigued? To learn more, visit www.wildvessel.com, Women, your access code is : “remember” Men, please apply! Friends of mine can use discount code: “chooselove”. This event will sell out, get your tickets sooner than later!
2)WILD WOMAN dance experience, Founded by my friends @Rachel Pringle and @Moun. Experience this liberating workshop this February 24th 2018 1-2:30pm, in Venice, California! You can read their recent interview on THIS IS HOW YOU CAN UNLEASH YOUR INNER WILD WOMAN in well and good https://www.wellandgood.com/good-advice/99d-wild-woman-workshop-inner-strength/ and learn or register at http://www.wildwoman.co/experience/
3)AN OD TO LA LOBA-THE WILD WOLF ARCHETYPE February 25th from 1pm-5pm, organized by powerhouse women of OG Girls Club @valerie Sepulveda and @Lilian, Is experiential brunch event with dance, dj's, live performances (included yours truly!), healers, and a cbd bar. This thoughtfully curated event is dedicated to embracing your wild woman and journeying back to truth, deep understanding, and love for your authentic self. I am actually going to be performing at this event! (I haven't performed since highschool!). What I admire most about this event, is that it is helping women find their wild in a healthy way, and proceeds from that discovery, will be supporting survivors of sexual exploitation.