ON WILDNESS

My personal association with wildness for a long time, was being "out of control",  or acting "crazy"  as in "she is acting wild".  It was something to be tamed, refined, and controlled.

For many, especially women, our wildness is seen as something to hone and keep under control. The natural growth of hair, to be shaved, our emotions, to be kept under control, and our sensuality to be unexpressed.  

It was awe awakening for me to come to realize that wild simply meant natural. And following our instincts.

In the book, Women who run with the wolves, Jungian analyst and author,  Clarissa Pinkola Estés, shares many stories that illustrate how this inherent wildness, especially for women,  has been suppressed, untolerated, subdued, and even punished in our culture, and the impact that this has had. 

I learned from the book, that the natural behavior of wolves, is to only kill the amount which they will eat. There is only one time when they engage in "surplus" killing,  meaning killing more than they can eat, and that is after a famine, for example, after the winter months. With their wildness supressed, they then compensate with exxagerated behavior. 

This unfortunately is what happens to us as well. We mute our wildness,  shame our sensuality, eliminate time for creativity,  limit our full self expression and quiet our voice. We minimize our feelings, dial down our dance moves, still our hips, and lose touch with our instincts.

What then? We yearn to feel our wildness, and rely on drugs and alcohol to do so. Or we engage in dangerous and promiscuous behavior to FEEL SOMETHING. Or we give ourselves away to those who don't deserve because we are in FAMINE for self expression. Or we fall into depression and anxiety due to suppressing or feeling shame about who we know ourselves to truly be, but not have space to express.

Our birthright is wild. And its imperative we find ways to release the shame associated with being free and authentically human. 

It is crucial to find safe places to explore, express, and excite our senses once again. Give yourself PERMISSION to just BE, be the natural, wild, wise, free, woman you were born to be. To release any shame, doubt, masks, religious dogmatic brainwashing, and feelings of wrongness in being who you are. Do you have a place like this? a community like this?  A place where you can take up SPACE with confidence? to cry? release? get naked? get costumed up? sing or roar loudly?Personally, I find embodied practices to be the most impactful in feeling fully liberated. 

I am SO grateful to know of many spaces to explore and express my inner wild, but I realize not everyone does!    If you are a woman reading this, and have never experienced this or feeling uncomfortable by this post, know you are reading this for a reason. IT IS TIME for all women to be freed. The universe is supporting us to  unleash our wildness, and OWN OUR POWER. The whole world is yearning for it. 

This month is JAM PACKED with opportunities to liberate your wildness. Here are my top 3 choices!:

 

1)One of my favorite immersive events, WILD VESSEL, is coming up on Saturday, February 17th from 6pm-Late. It's dedicated to just that: For us to Re-WILD our senses.  Held in a private luxury location in Los Angeles, consisting of 200 women and 50 men, Wild vessel is designed for men and women to empower the feminine rising. Explore all sides of yourself through workshops, services and break-out groups that are woven into one unforgettable evening. Note this is an event to feel liberated, dance, connect, explore and express, it is sexy but NOT sexual.  And it's time we learn the difference. Intrigued? To learn more, visit www.wildvessel.com, Women, your access code is : “remember”  Men, please apply! Friends of mine can use discount code: “chooselove”. This event will sell out, get your tickets sooner than later! 

2)WILD WOMAN dance experience,  Founded by my friends @Rachel Pringle and @Moun. Experience this liberating workshop this  February 24th 2018 1-2:30pm, in Venice, California! You can read their recent interview on THIS IS HOW YOU CAN UNLEASH YOUR INNER WILD WOMAN in well and good  https://www.wellandgood.com/good-advice/99d-wild-woman-workshop-inner-strength/ and learn or register at  http://www.wildwoman.co/experience/ 

3)AN OD TO LA LOBA-THE WILD WOLF ARCHETYPE February 25th from 1pm-5pm, organized by powerhouse women of OG Girls Club @valerie Sepulveda and @Lilian, Is experiential brunch event with dance, dj's, live performances (included yours truly!), healers, and a cbd bar. This thoughtfully curated event is dedicated to embracing your wild woman and journeying back to truth, deep understanding, and love for your authentic self. I am actually going to be performing at this event! (I haven't performed since highschool!).  What I admire most about this event, is that it is helping women find their wild in a healthy way, and proceeds from that discovery, will be supporting survivors of sexual exploitation. 

 

ON SERVICE/SEVA

ON SERVICE/SEVA:

Have you noticed that when we are feeling down, we usually seek to ease our struggle by TAKING something (medication, food, prescription, a hug, a walk, a yoga class, three deep breaths, etc). While these all have a place and are helpful in their own ways, it is rare that people think about GIVING more to ease their pain.

We are conditioned to associate service with: work, chores, and giving of our energy/time. So, why would someone want to do that on their free time, and especially when they are feeling down or low energy?

For one, research shows that acts of kindness towards others makes a significantly positive impact on our quality of life and decreases the feelings of depression and anxiety.

It turns out, selfless service is one of the best remedies for improved mental, emotional, physical, and social wellbeing. 
I noticed this for myself, and began to get curious around why service had this impact.

I got some insight when I looked into the breakdown of the word 'Seva'-which is the Sanskrit word for selfless service.

Seva originates from the sanskrit root word saha, meaning “with that,” and eva, meaning “too.” Thus, seva means “together with.”

Ahhh now it began to make such sense.

....The feeling of separateness is the ultimate illusion that causes humans to feel the most suffering and pain.

Feelings of isolation, abandonment, loneliness, and lack of purpose are common to individuals experiencing depression and illness. In fact, it hurts human beings so much to feel separate, that a famous research study revealed that we literally rather be abused than neglected... Any kind of attention/connection, even if abusive, is preferable over being left alone. Thats how much it hurts to feel isolated.

February, the month of valentines day, which many associate with "partnership", can be especially isolating to many people.

Service/Seva, directly translating to "together with", can be a perfect antidote! Being of service to others in need, brings an inherent sense of togetherness and belonging in a society that often feels fragmented and divided.

Additionally, when we service those in need, our sense of purpose and contribution are increased, which together with a sense of belonging, are the perfect ingredients to make a deliciously happy and fulfilled human being and community:)

*Note that I am speaking directly to SEVA - the action of being in selfless service/ giving of your time vs. 'DANA' which is the sanskrit word for generosity in the form of donations to charity. 
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As a testament of LOVE for yourself and your community, can you commit to SEVA/ volunteering at least once in the month of February?

If so, comment "yes!" below as well as WHERE you plan on volunteering.

If you don't know where, please use the comment section to ASK for suggestions! ..You can express a population of interest (children, elderly, animals, environment) or a skill you have to offer and our community will give you suggestions!

For those of you who are already involved with certain causes or are familiar with service/volunteer opportunities, 
Please list them below!....I would love to give some options of causes we care about to those interested in taking this February Seva challenge on!

Here's to making February a month of "togetherness"!

<3

#volunteer #seva #together #community #contribution #love #service#wellness #belonging

ON COMMITMENT

ON COMMITMENT:

Commitment is Challenging. Hard. Limiting. An obligation.

Just seeing the word often leads me to experience contraction in my body, anxiety, and a feeling that I am limiting my life in some way.

-How can someone like me, a free spirit, who values being in flow, make commitments in advance?? 
-What if I don't feel upto what I agreed to when the time comes? 
-What if something else comes up that feels more in alignment? 
-What if I am tired? 
-What if I want to fly away on a spontaneous adventure? 
-Commitments get in the way of my free spirit nature and having fun!

These beliefs around commitment, have led me to: 
-Procrastinate; 
-be late; 
-change plans; 
-be indecisive; 
-not present; 
-& not follow through or complete projects and ideas.

Which leaves me: 
- judging myself
- feeling like a failure
- frustrated
-feeling like I have wasted time
-unfulfilled

And leaves others: 
-distant, frustrated & disrespected.

Can anyone relate!?
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I am currently working on changing my relationship to commitment, considering that

Commitment actually is:
Possibility. Integrity. Power. Self love. Trust building. Devotion. Creation. Connection. Contribution.

Ever since this paradigm shift I have seen an exponential shift in my relationships, productivity, sense of power, confidence, sense of self, and contribution to the world.

What I really got, was when we do what we say we will, consistently, we are gaining trust not just from those around us, but from OURSELVES.

It's often said that trust is the foundation of all relationships. And the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.

How do we build trust with ourselves? By doing what we say we will do, no matter how small the task. (It's worth noting that its important to actually acknowledge yourself for all the things you did that you said you would, no matter how small)

ie. "I said I was going to turn my phone off 15 minutes before bed and I did"; "I said I was going to call my mom today and I did"; "I said I was going to show up at 12pm for a meeting, and I did", etc.

When we begin to do what we say, we begin to realize (because of the evidence from being in ACTION) that we are capable and reliable. That we actually have much more potential than our inner critic has led us to believe. 
Then we feel damn proud and good about ourselves:
"I did what I said I was going to do" and vibrate -"Success!"

When action is in consistently in alignment with our word, we feel good and vibrate success, no matter how small. 
And what's one of the main elements of manifestation? To embody and vibrate 'as if'...So sticking to commitments gives us the opportunity to vibrate "success" , and attract more of it into our lives.

I am actually finding when I stick to commitments, even the ones I don't "feel" like doing, I feel more powerful and impactful in tasks that I do feel like doing. And when I don't, it takes power and level of impact away from other areas in my life.

Three things that have helped me stay in action with commitment, especially commitments I don't 'feel' like doing, are:

1) to switch language from "I HAVE to do this" to "I GET to do this". Try it on. I find it to feel SO much better.
... Theres an element of gratitude and of realizing how blessed we are to even have an opportunity to have the commitment in the first place.

2)To have a WHY/ an intention/a greater something you are committed to, (ie. authentic self expression, community, self growth, connection, integrity, world peace), which is the WHY for you committing to some things you may not "feel" like doing.

3) Having accountability.

Any other helpful insights or tips around commitment that you can share? 
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I am committing to writing at least one "On" post a week;) and my WHY is my greater intention of community connection and self expression.

...What are you committed to in your life? What's your why? Share and stay accountable:)

#commitment #productivity #perspective #gratitude #growth #possiblity